How to have a successful relationship

Every moment I send a short message (SMS) to her, that day I normally get her attention. It’s a message of love. Reminding her on how we meet. Telling her how she used to be shy whenever we meet. She used to like down. Plucking near by leaves or flowers during our conversation.

That is the only way to get her attention whenever there is a moment of silence of SMS. I do this during my tea break at work or lunch hour. With this kind of communication via mobile phone, we are able to discuss our menu that night.

Once we get in touch through this technology, she finalizes by saying, good day my dear. This message will make my day to be full of blessings. If I had an assignment in office, I will take few minutes to cover it. In the evening I will pass through the supermarket and get some chocolate for my wife and our son, John.

What I want to put in place is that, communication strengthens any affiliation. If well applied, we will have a long lasting relationship on earth before we get to new the heaven that Christ promised us. 

This modern gadgets we have, their purpose is communication. Therefore our mobile phones fill the gap of physical presence by texts. It makes life easy by exchanging words with your loved ones at far.

Also ensure you set time for family affair discussion. Family issues should be at the top priorities in any marriage. This will kill the enemy of blame game. Where you have come from, the current situation and the future of your generation lies at the palm of your hand, husband and wife. This is well explained in the book Fighting For Your Marriage by Howard J. Markman states that being there and standing for one another is very important in marriage.

You began with a single rental room, now you are in your own apartment. You have moved from paying rent to owning a home. In deed getting married is good. It comes with blessings. Blessings of moving to somewhere with someone you call your destiny.

She made you work hard during you singlehood till now you are a father. Now you praise God as you even chat recalling those days when you were rained on as you were waiting her from noon till late night. Truly you have come a long way.

Opening an account for your child is what you are putting in place now. Getting him insurance in your son’s education is the debate now. Getting a new piece of land for agribusiness is the second agenda. What are we going to plant? Who should we employ to our farm? Those are some of the questions which need answers from you, dad and mum.

Another serious issue which needs the intelligence of you people is money matters. Any coin earned and spent should be taken into account. Men might laugh at this issue but it is serious. Having record books during this inflation season is what will solve the problem of spending more than you get.

People may see you crazy when carrying a shopping list, asking receipts on every cent spent in buying match sticks…That’s the answer of how did you spend that money I left with you.

When doing this basic family arithmetic’s, your family will never lack anything. They will not be beggars but advisors to beggars in marriage. Remember to take record of cash.

Having fall out is in any successful couples. Though it’s a serious challenge but it should not be a barrier to your sweet family dream. One of the preacher’s in a matatu I was travelling in said; as couples when you have a problem in marriage, put the problem on the table, step aside as couple then discussing this problem you are steering at. If we all solve this marriage conflicts like our preacher’s teaching, conflict will not have a room in your matrimonial home. A family divided will not stand. Reclaim your marriage with action steps as Nancy J. Wasson says in the book Keep Your Marriage

Play games. Let your child watch who will win. Play that Temple Run game in your personal computer’s. Let the spectator, child celebrate the winner. It arouses the love sensory. It creates that atmosphere of laugh. The laughter will make the neighbors admire your living standards. It’s simple things which adds some meaning to life. Play any game of choice.

Reading right books as a family will make your mind young. Books for families, investment and other motivational books will keep you going. Kill that saying of if you want to hide something from an African, put it in a book. Attend family conferences. Get the right speakers who are role models in your family. Buy the cassette discs, CD. Watch as a couple during dinner in your own family sitting room. Upload your lessons and achievements on you tube- tell the world what you have done.

Finally, visit your family up country. Those people took care of you while you had nothing. You ate their ugali and sukuma wiki. They took you to school. Appreciate them with your visit. They saw this planet before you. Don’t forget the African proverb; burying an old man is like burying gold. Appreciate them in any way you couples can. Their advice is what makes you going.

By Nyabuto Henry